I offer an impartial, supportive and confidential face-to-face meeting either from my practices in Sevenoaks and Westerham in Kent, or I can communicate via video conference call such as Skype, Zoom and Facebook Messenger, wherever you are in the world.
My approach is integrative, meaning I tailor our session to meet your needs because we are all different. I also use CAT, cognitive analytical therapy , psychodynamic and person-centered therapy.
I can help you with a variety of life's challenges you may be experiencing such as stress, anxiety, relationship difficulties, work-related issues and loss.
Often people seek counselling for a specific reason, as mentioned above, but it does not always have to relate to a major life event.
Many of us have had difficult experiences at some stage in our lives, it may have affected our self-esteem, or our ability to form meaningful relationships. For some, those events will not have hindered their ability to live their lives, as they would like to - but some of us can feel burdened by these experiences, or feel as though we are stuck in a rut.
Lifecare counselling will provide you with a unique space and time to explore such experiences in a non-judgmental environment.
Areas of specialist counselling
Unfortunately, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage. These statistics can be higher if you have undergone fertility treatment.
There is no right or wrong way to feel after a miscarriage. While some mothers and their partners come to accept their loss more quickly, others take longer. Some, cope well at the time but find the pain of their loss comes to them later.
If you have lost a baby, you will understandably feel sad and need time to grieve.
Miscarriage is often an unhappy, frightening, lonely experience for both women and men.
It is important to be able to talk about this with someone you can trust, to help you feel less alone. I understand and recognise the emotional impact your loss may be having on you and your partner.
At Lifecare Counselling, I can give you the opportunity to grieve and explore your feelings in a safe, nurturing, confidential environment, not to lock those feelings away but to find a way to live with them.
If it is more convenient, I could communicate via the phone or via Skype, you may find it helpful to discuss certain concerns and/or experiences or to seek support on how to deal with family, friends or work colleagues who may have known you were pregnant.
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched They must be felt with the heart."
Pregnancy Scans, Complications and Fetal Abnormalities
Scans are normally an exciting time where expectant parents are able to see their baby more clearly on screen. Sadly, about 2% of babies have serious health problems and parents then have to make one of the hardest decisions of their lives.
My extensive research and experience has revealed that although hospital professionals are very kind and support expectant parents medically, imparting their knowledge on their baby’s condition, few are able to continue supporting parents emotionally after diagnosis. Expectant parents are often left feeling isolated and alone wading through the myriad of emotions and fact-finding, of whether to continue or terminate their pregnancy, a choice that will affect them for the rest of their lives.
Specialist counselling is rarely recommended and difficult to find. Even searching on the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) ‘it’s good to talk’ website, it is almost impossible to find a counsellor that specialises in supporting expectant parents through antenatal testing and decision making. With over 20 years’ experience of working in this area, I can offer you an impartial, supportive and a confidential time to discuss and explore your feelings, whilst supporting you to make the right decision for you and your family.
If your baby has recently been diagnosed with an abnormality, we can start with a confidential telephone consultation, or a face to face session where you will have time to explore how you are feeling, talk through your concerns, look at your options and I will support you to make an informed decision. It is natural to feel shocked, confused, scared and devastated.
Lifecare can support you through your decision making and beyond.
"Having a baby diagnosed with an abnormality was the scariest and most traumatic experience of my life".
Supporting Parents after Pregnancy
Parents have often told me that they felt nervous in seeking counselling after the loss of their baby in case they were ‘judged’ for not continuing with the pregnancy. Some babies are so poorly they would not have survived pregnancy. At Lifecare counselling, I provide a nurturing, confidential service that will never judge parents for making the decision that was right for them. You have made a very brave decision that was right for you and your baby.
Stillbirths & Neonatal deaths
Sadly, the death of a baby is not a rare tragedy, currently approximately 17 babies die before, during or soon after birth every day in the UK.
Often, with no explanation why a baby has died in the womb or within the first month of life, parents are left with an overwhelming intense grief, often frightening, with emotional and physical reactions. You may feel life will never be normal again.
Some parents find support groups helpful in the beginning, knowing that they are not alone. However, as time moves on parents need coping strategies to implement into daily life.
At Lifecare counselling, I recognise that losing your baby, affects both Mothers and Fathers, this grief is multi-dimensional and you may find specialist counselling beneficial in your healing journey.
Naomi, provides a unique specialist service to parents. In addition, is an accredited specialist counsellor with the Infant Loss Foundation.
“Nearly a year down the line, I was still struggling, I felt isolated and made sure I avoided seeing all my friends with babies, it wasn’t until I started counselling with Naomi that I began to feel less alone and it was okay for me to cry, feel angry, sad, hurt etc. I am now learning how to live without my baby”
Parents of Disabled Children
Parenting a child with a disability or additional needs is often described as a roller-coaster ride of emotions and experiences. - It can be hard to talk to family and friends about how you feel or what you are experiencing.
Often parents are so focused on putting their child's needs first, they forget about looking after themselves emotionally. - Self-care is paramount, but don't let this lead you to think that self-care is selfish.
At Lifecare counselling, I understand that living with a disabled child carries times of loneliness and isolation. The possible emotional, social, intellectual and physical complications experienced by your child may impact on you and your family. With more than 27 years’ experience of working closely with parents of disabled children, I fully understand the complications that surround being a parent of a disabled child.
Lifecare counselling gives you the opportunity to share and explore your feelings, the joys as well as the concerns and anxieties you may have.